Monday, March 21, 2005

A Rock Feels No Pain

by John Fischer

I was going through my old emails and I found this one, a daily devotional piece. Although this devotional was written in the "Christian" context, it makes practical sense in the romantic context. This is one of the things I sort of re-affirmed to myself when I took that 3 week hiatus.
Those who are afraid to love again, please read on.

The popular singing duo, Simon and Garfunkel, had a song early in their career that defiantly asserted individuality and an exaggerated aversion for relationships. In this song the singer talks about being a fortress unto himself, distaining love and laughter, and having no need for friendship. Hiding away in his room with his books and poetry to protect him, he isolates himself from all human relationships because he has identified those relationships as the cause of all his emotional pain. He is a rock and an island—alone to himself in the world.

The philosophy of the song hinges on the words: “If I never loved I never would have cried.” It’s all about protecting oneself from being hurt by removing oneself from what one perceives to be the source of the pain. I think we can all understand these feelings having been hurt by relationships and finding, even for a season, a certain consolation in being alone. But I think we also would agree that isolation is never the answer to this kind of pain. To love anyone is to be vulnerable and open to being hurt. Love and pain go together, and the only true answer to this dilemma is to welcome both.

Love costs. Think of what Christ paid when he embraced us. Think of the pain the Son of Man endured in loving a lost and wayward humanity.

Love is never without pain. When you sign on to a relationship you sign on to being hurt. Count on it. But who wants the other option?
C.S. Lewis once wrote about a place where one can be free from the “perturbations” of love. (Perturbation, by the way, is the state of being perturbed.) That place is one’s COFFIN. Can’t argue with that. Nothing can get through to you there. So Simon and Garfunkel and C.S. Lewis agree: There is a place you can be safe from the painful aspects of being in relationship with others, but who wants it?

What would make Christ go through what He went through for us? Love and all the rewards it brings in warmth, companionship, fellowship and joy.
Nothing brings more meaning to life than love. True love is what God is, and what we were made to know with Him and with each other. Because of what Christ accomplished on the cross, the pain of love will one day be gone. And even now, we can experience its victory.

So what will it be? The high cost and vulnerability of love, or the loneliness of isolation? A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries. But a son or a daughter knows a warm place in the family of God.
It’s important to know your options.

John Fischer is an author, speaker, and song writer based in Southern California. His latest book, Love Him in the Morning has been released by Revell Publishing

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

I'm Back and Bad!

I'm back and bad! Hehehe!
I have some stuff I would like to share everyone but I can't seem to do anything right now because my mind is still on vacation. I'm still adjusting to the heat and the sleeping habits and the eating habits I got used to doing for 3 weeks. Haaayy! Para akong baboy na kakatayin.
I would like to thank everyone who wished me well, who posted comments on my blog, who sent me sms every now and then:
G (sent me sms all the time just to check if I'm alive hehehe)
Huseng Busabos
Chicay who also sent me sms to keep me updated

Isang pampagana:
Q. Why does a penis have a hole in the end?
A. So men can be open minded.