Monday, May 23, 2005

She Comes First

Everyone should read this book by Ian Kerner She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. I still have to read the book. I heard it's been getting rave reviews from a lot of people: from the New York Times to some feminist clubs.

From what I've read so far, this book is about Ian's quest to make a woman cum first. He apparently has become good at giving oral service that he's made a book out of it. I hope Filipino men would read this. A lot of Pinoys are really bad when it comes to sex, and a lot of Pinays are not aware that sex should be pleasurable for them, not a task or obligation.

Here is an excerpt from the book:
When describing sex in the proverbial locker-room, men tend to employ the language of penetration—— adjectives like "hard" and "deep." We go in, we extricate: as though pleasure was something buried deep inside her womb, a nugget to be rammed, jostled and liberated with the powerful male tool.
Rare is the man who says, "I made love to her as subtly and lightly as a feather"; "I grazed her vulva as with the delicate wings of a butterfly"; "I barely touched her she came so hard!"
And yet such language would be more appropriate, as the inner two-thirds of the vagina are substantially less sensitive than the outer third.
Numerous studies have demonstrated that women whose lovers give them direct clitoral stimulation during sexual activity are more likely to climax consistently. But because of its location, most sexual positions do not properly stimulate the clitoris. As Shere Hite concluded, "Sex provides efficiently for male orgasm, and inefficiently for female orgasm."
Read more: She Comes First, New York Metro, Mail & Guardian Online

5 comments:

Ka Uro said...

Quote: "A lot of Pinoys are really bad when it comes to sex"

wala akong masabi, except knowing ko na i'm not one of those. huwag mong kokontrahin, ate fions. i'm not in denial. hinde! hinde! hinde talaga!

Mec said...

but some people say that Pinoys are better lovers because they take theri time more.... more than the Japanese do, for example...

anyway... i love gentle lovemaking... but i also sometimes like it rough and crazy :D

but am such a prima donna in bed... talagang i have to be mightily pleasured first before i even think of giving....

unless special occasion

hany_nany said...

hey.. that book seems interesting :) where did you get it? :D

abe said...

i'm having a hard time looking for this book...wer did u buy it?

Anonymous said...

dami kasing pinoy ayaw magbrotsa.

mauna dapat yung babae. hintayin hangga't sabunutan kahit ika'y kalbo.

himud pintor, brotsang lababo, sisid marino... yan ang dapat.